Um. Way to be self-sabotaging fandom! Hating people who are actively participating in fandom just because they're participating is not going to help anything. And what's up with the personal vendettas against BNFs? There's this really nifty feature called the scroll button when you don't want to read something.
Anyway, some people defend hate memes because they're like, the only opportunity for non-BNFs to be heard and anonymous commenting levels the playing field or something. Yes, it totally sucks that lj is more of a popularity contest than a cohesive community, but seriously, if you're yourself are actually involved in fandom, can you not see the good in encouraging everyone to participate? Because it seems to me that a lot of times creative people play off of each other and encouraging that should never, ever be a bad thing. One thing I do wish though, is that some of the stuff brought up in the hate threads could actually be discussed outside of the context of petty, spiteful commentary.
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I really try to leave feedback for everything I enjoyed reading, but if it's a writer who I know doesn't respond to feedback, I usually won't bother. Above and beyond any considerations of fandom etiquette and politeness, not responding to feedback (at least to me) seems to indicate a certain level of indifference towards even getting feedback at all.
And personally, I like writing feedback, I like picking out what I loved, and telling writers exactly what worked for me. So I usually spend a good amount of time trying to construct something more than a quick "thanks!" (not that there's anything wrong with doing that, sometimes it's all I have time for too.) Fandom is a reciprocal culture, if I don't feel like the time I put into feedback is appreciated, I won't leave it. And more than that, feedback is pretty much the best opportunity for readers to interact with writers, it's how a lot of meta gets discussed, and how a lot of people meet new friends. I don't think every writer has to automatically make friends with all of their reviewers, but I think it's nice when the channels of communication are at least open to that, even if all it is is a standard thank you reply, at least that's something.
Some of the best meta discussions I've had have come out of feedback threads,
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I'm repeating myself from another comment in this thread, but isn't it just as easy NOT to pass judgment about this? Why bother making assumptions when you don't have all the facts? There are so many personality types out there, and so many reasons why people *don't* reply to feedback (I remember a debate a year or so back where someone brought up that they didn't like to clutter up their responses with their own posts, that what they really enjoyed was having their story there and then the comments and no messy threads), that I think it's a bit worst-case scenario to think you're being ignored or *singled out* to be ignored.
To be fair, this debate has opened me a little more than previous ones to the other side. As a reader, I personally will never want the author to feel in debt to me for my feedback, that's just not in my nature, but I think after reading how many people feel shunned when they don't get that response? Maybe we can expect authors to at least *attempt* to reply to feedback regularly, and maybe we can expect readers who aren't as ready to think the worst of an author if they don't get there half of the time, because at least they're trying.
Also, if I were the type, I'd be more easily annoyed at people who picked their friends to respond to than those who didn't comment at all, because at least the latter is consistent, and it's more likely they have a reason why they don't. Then again, to play my own devil's advocate, the former might be more comfortable speaking with people they know, because who isn't?
Agh, I feel like I'm making no sense. I'm terribly wiped from packing and moving. I hope this comment came out as something other than a jumble.
I can completely relate to an author who doesn't have time to respond to every piece of feedback they get, but not acknowledging it at all? Ever? I refuse to believe that there is a single author out there on livejournal who doesn't have time to say the words thank you at least once, be it a blanket thanks in another post or an eta on the original one or a note in their userinfo and while they certainly don't have to, I think we can all agree that the polite response to receiving a compliment (or a gift) is to say thank you.
See this is where I think people begin to disagree. Not that saying thank you for a gift isn't polite, you're right that most would agree with you there. I think it's what people view feedback *as* which sparks the debate. My feedback to other people is a thank you. It just honestly is. I'm not looking to get anything back for it, unless I *am* (when I ask a question). I don't give to get, you know? There's something impolite in *that*, I think.
I've been questioning last night and today why as a writer I try to respond to all my feedback, even though as a reader, I don't feel it's necessary. I went through a few different explanations (obligation, give people what they want, don't hurt people's feelings, etc) but I think it's less because I think it's polite or that I'm obligated to, and more because I just *want* to. I like to. I'm attention hungry (well, when I'm not avoiding it) and so are other people and I *know* that. Though there is some of that doing what's expected of me in there, too, must be or else I wouldn't feel anxious when I go through the phase where I'm horrible at responding.
Just a note, I'm glad this debate hasn't turned into wank. So far people seem to be respecting the opinions of others, and I feel completely comfortable speaking my honest opinion even though it's clearly an unpopular one. Hopefully we can all keep it this way? ::crosses fingers::
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