Still no word on the no power-book. I should get it back later this week, hopefully by friday or else I'll have to wait until the next week.
In fandom news I'm sort of enjoying watch the HP fandom implode upon itself, in a sad sort of way. I stayed away from the massive crush thread and the hate thread but oh man, some people need to vent more often in smaller amounts, it might help with the anger, and cause less gigantic explosions.
There've been various memes going around including one about fears and phobias. I kind of like it since I am, well, pretty mich afraid of life at this point.
Things that terrify me:
-bugs. all bugs, bugs in real life, bugs on tv, bugs in movies, pictures of bugs. they all scare the crap out of me. Especially spiders.
- Needles and piercings. I get queasy when I see people putting things through their skin. I passes out once giving blood and once getting my second tattoo. And I wear clip on earrings cause I'm terrified of changing out real earrings.
- Closed shower curtains. I don't like not knowing what's ehind it. I just feel extremely uncomfortable in a bathroom if the shower curtain is closed.
What about you guys? Any weird fears or phobias?
Along with watching mass amounts of Buffy I also went and saw Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind last Thursday. I thought it was brilliant. I usually don't like Jim Carrey but I thought he chose a really good part, it certainly wasn't a movie I ever expected for him to star in.
I also saw Secretary for the first time, and my love for Maggie Gyllenhaal has only increased. I thought it was funny, and interesting and a fabulous story. I was also struck by how refreshing it was to see BDSM themes being represented in a way that wasn't classifying it as a bad thing, or an unhealthy thing.
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To answer your question, it's probably a combination of him not being very good and you being squicked by the process. It can be a little weird to embrace but dude, you've just got to start thinking that it's not a gross thing at all. I mean, yeah, we pee from there but that's totally normal. Also, the female clitoris has just as many, if not more nerve endings in it as the male penis. If we weren't supposed to feel pleasure, we wouldn't have a clit. And since normally the clit doesn't really get much action during actual sex, should't it get some attention somehow?
Also, you might think that the "stuff" that comes out of your vagina is gross, but guys are pretty much built to be attracted to it. We have pheromones that attract men, so while maybe it's weird to you, it's pretty likely that guys don't even think about the gross factor.
Here's what The Guide to Getting It On says about it:
It could help to try oral sex without the light on, or in the shower so you'll feel cleaner (or right after a shower). But it could also help to just talk about it with your boyfriend and see what he has to say about the taste/squick factor.
Some other good ideas:
-ask about hair, try trimming it down or even waxing if you want to. But ask how he feels about it too, you might feel better knowing that you have it how he likes it. Also, a quick pre-oral sex fix is to tug on the hair down there so that you remove all the loose ones, that way they won't get in his mouth or anything during sex.
-Also, if you clean your vagina when you shower it'll help. You don't really need to use soap, that could fuck with the pH levels, but if you use a washcloth and wash between your labia and around your clit that'll go a long way to help.
-Also, if you think his technique could improve you could try giving him helpful suggestions like, mmm use your fingers, or just telling him when something feels really good and that you'd like him to do it again.
So, say it with me, nice and proud, Oral Sex is Great.